tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post7447481773518444428..comments2023-12-31T08:43:00.853+00:00Comments on Wife in the North: Daddy dearestwife in the northhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15227214647512546906noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-11200025467613636692007-03-21T12:30:00.000+00:002007-03-21T12:30:00.000+00:00Resentment poisons the soul. How on earth are you ...Resentment poisons the soul. How on earth are you two supposed to cope if the pair of you consistently battle for power?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-79558126273008874592007-03-10T00:13:00.000+00:002007-03-10T00:13:00.000+00:00aminah - Your blog is completely blank ? Is this w...aminah - Your blog is completely blank ? Is this what you had in mind?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-18591947250844297582007-03-10T00:09:00.000+00:002007-03-10T00:09:00.000+00:00pig in the kitchen - leave your address and I will...pig in the kitchen - leave your address and I will pop round and give you...a demonstration...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-10637386141213516242007-03-09T20:33:00.000+00:002007-03-09T20:33:00.000+00:00anonymous#6, my turn to be thick. What is rumpy-p...anonymous#6, my turn to be thick. What is rumpy-pumpy?Pig in the Kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631525119816074013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-49852534314849671012007-03-09T20:04:00.000+00:002007-03-09T20:04:00.000+00:00what a lovely lovely blog and you write beautifull...what a lovely lovely blog and you write beautifully. Can I put you on a link list on my blog??? aminah<BR/>http://daysinwords.blogspot.com/aminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16893810039318977792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-30732567119160027602007-03-09T19:10:00.000+00:002007-03-09T19:10:00.000+00:00rose - maybe andy is just superior intellectually ...rose - maybe andy is just superior intellectually ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-32386714907717002882007-03-09T13:28:00.000+00:002007-03-09T13:28:00.000+00:00That's interesting Andy. Maybe you could show us ...That's interesting Andy. Maybe you could show us how you could do it better? That is, write a poignant paragraph or two about your life that would resonate deeply with people going through similar times, make them laugh, feel less alone and make them come back every day for more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-62926659381575290532007-03-09T11:42:00.000+00:002007-03-09T11:42:00.000+00:00Sorry to be a bit thick, but earlier it was mentio...Sorry to be a bit thick, but earlier it was mentioned that one had to get a 'timer' to make sure that 10 mins. [and no more, folks] were spent in chatting to one's hubby. What on earth do you do in the 10 minutes after rumpy-pumpy for heaven's sake ? <BR/>Couldn't you use your famous multi tasking skills do have a daily chat then ? You wouldn't even need a timer and you would kill two birds with one stone. Everyone's a winner, or have I missed something really obvious ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-52352378613544349372007-03-09T11:39:00.000+00:002007-03-09T11:39:00.000+00:00Hmm.. this article has made me think twice about g...Hmm.. this article has made me think twice about getting married. If it means getting 10 minutes a day of 'quality time', then I could just carry on having girl friends and meeting up with them for lunch every couple of days. <BR/><BR/>It does somehow make me think we have lost the plot in life when 'career' with its totally illusory mirage of satisfaction is more important than our nearest and dearest. <BR/><BR/>But then I can only say that since I've taken a sabbatical from the hamster wheel - I dare say I will soon be back on it, and won't have the time to even consider what it is I'm missing out on. <BR/><BR/>re. the meanderings vs ladys thing earlier. I don't think in this case anyone is 'knocking' Northumberland - growing up in Wales it is possible to find art, nice coffee, good conversation - I guess the point being made is that in the countryside you have to go and find it, whereas in the city it is 'on tap'. Finding it ain't quite as easy if one has children, I guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-3191576134791007132007-03-09T09:45:00.000+00:002007-03-09T09:45:00.000+00:00[Yet that same night, I see his father kiss a torn...[Yet that same night, I see his father kiss a torn finger to better mend the tender spot and think: "He's home. That's good."]<BR/>What a complete load of tripe! I saw that one in a movie just the other day. I can't believe people are falling for this...<BR/>You've gained recognition in the South for slagging off the North - That's bad enough, and now this manufactured crap? Sorry wifey, but this is just taking the p*ssAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-16943651114221230922007-03-09T09:09:00.000+00:002007-03-09T09:09:00.000+00:00anonymous dearest, not sure what's happened there....anonymous dearest, not sure what's happened there. have I moved up or down from page one million and something on gogle? Hope you find me, whatever remote bit of cyberspace I may be drifting in, and thanks wifey for helping out one of your readers. <BR/><BR/>Mutterings and meanderings, I fear that ladys is right and in fact you can't get any decent cocktail up north at all. I dread to think what was in the last bloody mary I ordered. This northern lack of lounge bar sophistication is quite ironic considering I only found wifey's blog the first time by googling 'sex on the beach'<BR/><BR/>I'm off to try and get a drink without brown ale in it, have a good weekend wifey won't yourilly superhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05448694078653341955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-60566030392469379582007-03-09T08:41:00.000+00:002007-03-09T08:41:00.000+00:00dear wife in the north,i just wanted to let you kn...dear wife in the north,<BR/><BR/>i just wanted to let you know your story inspired me to start my blog.<BR/><BR/>i love your blog. i have no idea why it appeals to a 29yr old city dwelling guy, but it just does. it feels like a bbc drama.<BR/><BR/>if you get a minute away from your children then take a look at my blog to find someone on a similar path - www.manifestingjack.blogspot.com.<BR/><BR/>keep up the awesome work.<BR/><BR/>jackTake A Year Outhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08814949536865007530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-83841920703419317202007-03-09T07:46:00.000+00:002007-03-09T07:46:00.000+00:00Hello WITN, I've been reading you for a while now,...Hello WITN, I've been reading you for a while now, you often make me laugh so I wanted to point you at this http://troubled-diva.com/labels/rednoseday.html and ask you to submit a post from your archive. It's aimed at UK bloggers and is in support of Comic Relief (so there isn't much time as that's next Friday).Zinnia Cyclamenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04841314997513292477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-80196304279195992912007-03-09T06:18:00.000+00:002007-03-09T06:18:00.000+00:00The author of 'Raising Boys' (Steve Biddulph?) adv...The author of 'Raising Boys' (Steve Biddulph?) advocates in one of his books, a daily '10 minutes to save your marriage'. This consists of sitting down with your partner daily (ha! or whenever they are there), sharing a snack and a drink, wine i suggest, and 'catching up'. My husband worked away in the week for a few years and now just works. And works. But whenever he does pop in, we do have that 10 minutes. And I am strict...I set a timer. I'm very busy, I can only spare 10 minutes, but actually, I think it may work! I quite like him most of the time! Bon courage!Pig in the Kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631525119816074013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-65485335483583878002007-03-09T02:02:00.000+00:002007-03-09T02:02:00.000+00:00I think that the bears that were growling in the d...I think that the bears that were growling in the darkness when you first started blogging, are coming from an unexpected source.<BR/><BR/>Note to Daddy: Whoever sits in the "feeding" chair position, does the feeding. You don't want to feed? Then find another chair.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-46320177017342302102007-03-08T22:24:00.000+00:002007-03-08T22:24:00.000+00:00Your booze is cheaper than where? Nothing like a b...Your booze is cheaper than where? Nothing like a bit of moonshine, that'll save you from Gordon's taxes.....<BR/>I've got a recipe somewhere. A traditional Norfolk mix.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-21805356920864479252007-03-08T22:21:00.000+00:002007-03-08T22:21:00.000+00:00Hello, thank you so much for again giving eloquent...Hello, thank you so much for again giving eloquent voice to the most essential. I'm reminded of my own experiances. <BR/>It can sometimes feel strange to share such an intense situation as children 100% with someone else, but it's a biological fact!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-39750955868369963212007-03-08T22:03:00.000+00:002007-03-08T22:03:00.000+00:00Perhaps if you haven't already invested Video Conf...Perhaps if you haven't already invested Video Conferencing via webcams would be an idea for the kids it might help them maintain a connection whilst Papa is absent.Gonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17979621132151870323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-77911102426067164832007-03-08T21:30:00.000+00:002007-03-08T21:30:00.000+00:00As a mom of young ones with a travelling husband, ...As a mom of young ones with a travelling husband, I'm really enjoying your blog....you very eloquently express the challenges of reconstituting the family when dad comes home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-42102173118237859842007-03-08T20:35:00.000+00:002007-03-08T20:35:00.000+00:00My husband is a commuter so although we do see eac...My husband is a commuter so although we do see each other everyday, his long working hours mean we feel the same as you have described here. <BR/>Husband had a weeks 'holiday' at home last year. I think we argued for the first two days about all sorts of apparently banal things. What was actually going on was an 'adjustment' to him being in situ. Being aware of this meant I was a bit more prepared for his being at home for 2wks over Christmas. I made more effort to stand back and be involved, it was easier than fighting it!!<BR/>That said, my husband said to me last night "Do I irritate you all the time?". What to say? It came out as "No darling, just the usual bloke stuff that irritates me." It was placatory but now I am full of guilt for how I have made him feel - huh, how did he manage that too?!Silly Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13227290134535172642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-82395283247495165992007-03-08T19:04:00.000+00:002007-03-08T19:04:00.000+00:00Re Ladys: I thought the Northumbrian knocking had ...Re Ladys: I thought the Northumbrian knocking had finished for a while. <BR/><BR/>"educated conversation combined with a knowledge of popular culture and dry wit is not a cocktail known in Northumberland".<BR/><BR/>Really? Perhaps you need to listen more closely.<BR/><BR/>Northumberland, like London, is a place of many parts.Mutterings and Meanderingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384198819878227966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-34849919179008416222007-03-08T18:59:00.000+00:002007-03-08T18:59:00.000+00:00I love your four-year-old's remark - that Daddy lo...I love your four-year-old's remark - that Daddy looks "like some old bloke" - no mincing of words, there!<BR/><BR/>There's definitely a tension between your partner being away and everyone acclimatising, and then the readjustment period when they come back. My other half used to go away a lot for work trips abroad when our eldest was a baby, and I used to hate it when she and I came back from wherever we'd been that afternoon and I'd go into the flat, knowing I wouldn't see another adult until the next day. I'd feel almost angry with my partner when he did come back - angry that he'd deserted me in the first place (especially deserted me with a small non-sleeping infant to look after single-handedly).<BR/><BR/>Hope your husband's back for a while, so that you can get through this tricky time and things can settle down again, anyway.Lucy Diamondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11831060852859704680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-5695521988269949882007-03-08T18:19:00.000+00:002007-03-08T18:19:00.000+00:00Rilly Super - If you are reading this, poppet, I a...Rilly Super - If you are reading this, poppet, I am having a job and a half finding your blog on Google today. Any idea why this is ? <BR/><BR/>I've tried searching for you, 'Rilly Super' and 'Strife in the North', but the latter brought up details of some articles about the Beslan school crisis...not quite as hysterical as your articles. <BR/><BR/>Can you assist ? I am suffering from withdrawal symptoms here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-41356094632034426662007-03-08T18:16:00.000+00:002007-03-08T18:16:00.000+00:00Northumberland is the most wonderful,dramatic,vast...Northumberland is the most wonderful,dramatic,vast and empty county in England serving to remind you of the glory of nature. If you are an incomer with broad horizons but without your accustomed professional position and colleagues it is also one of the loneliest places in the world. We have lattes, we have art and theatre but educated conversation combined with a knowledge of popular culture and dry wit is not a cocktail known in Northumberland. But take to drink. It's cheaper up here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-83381845932964453012007-03-08T17:31:00.000+00:002007-03-08T17:31:00.000+00:00Spot on, it's the daily/weekly/monthly/yearly trea...Spot on, it's the daily/weekly/monthly/yearly treadmill we all trudge around. Wouldn't have it any other way, would we? I think I rather like your husband, but then I would considering I'm another husband in another place, with more lovely but snotty kids and another tired wife. At least we live in the south. Near beaches, but they aren't very misty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com