tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post3932075983136528695..comments2023-12-31T08:43:00.853+00:00Comments on Wife in the North: Alone on a wide wide seawife in the northhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15227214647512546906noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-90125060792766546332008-07-29T06:33:00.000+01:002008-07-29T06:33:00.000+01:00Hi,This blog is very much popular because of it's ...Hi,<BR/><BR/>This blog is very much popular because of it's fact which is so interesting and informative too. I visit this site whenever I get time.<BR/><BR/>Ron<BR/>-----------------------------------<BR/><A HREF="http://blog.widecircles.com" REL="nofollow">blog.widecircles.com</A>Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182486575498638792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-77033188540674327552007-06-21T18:10:00.000+01:002007-06-21T18:10:00.000+01:00when my computer died on me and I was offline for ...when my computer died on me and I was offline for a period of three weeks, I felt suddenly liberated...as if I were living to much online and not enough offline and now that the mac is back, I have decided to live the real world and take this one with a firm pinch of salt...aminahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16893810039318977792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-8917016034843569342007-06-20T10:47:00.000+01:002007-06-20T10:47:00.000+01:00I am so sorry I didn't read this when you wrote it...I am so sorry I didn't read this when you wrote it...May I join you in your boat dear heart? I would if I had to swim there...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-7758627831967492282007-06-20T08:27:00.000+01:002007-06-20T08:27:00.000+01:00As a geordie chap who made the journey south some ...As a geordie chap who made the journey south some years ago to be met with disdain by the majority of the locals down here I would simply urge you to persevere... if that fails get the bus into Newcastle and get drunk, you'll make loads of friends then!!<BR/><BR/>Keep on keeping on.Rivshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879158999535514050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-91466708582165982512007-06-15T09:22:00.000+01:002007-06-15T09:22:00.000+01:00WITN, I am genuinely sorry that you don't feel at ...WITN, I am genuinely sorry that you don't feel at home in Northumberland and empathise with your feelings of loneliness (my husband's job has forced many uprootings on us) but what I really, really don't understand is why you're persevering with life in the north.<BR/><BR/>It seems to have been your husband's grand passion but he's in London all week. If he thinks that you'd all be better off living in Northumberland why isn't he there with you? Surely it isn't a condition of marriage that one party should live somewhere they're miserable just so that the other has a cottage in the country to come home to at weekends? Isn't a proper family life better for your children - is it a good thing that they spend so much more time with their nanny than they do with their father?<BR/><BR/>I read your blog often and am regularly moved or amused or informed but you have never answered this huge question that hangs over the whole enterprise - why?Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05202371837109856183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-90937123033934663722007-06-14T23:58:00.000+01:002007-06-14T23:58:00.000+01:00M & M, I really should be asleep now - but, but, y...M & M, I really should be asleep now - but, but, you are keeping me awake. I am sorry to have offended you. How though? Why do you identify with "them"? Surely you are not one of Wifey's detractors ? Is it because you live in Northumbria ?...!<BR/><BR/>Perhaps I am being naive, but where does it generalise about Northumbrian women here anyway? People can be awful, we all know that and it hurts, that's all, OK.... looking forward to meeting you again... you sound fun...!merry weatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15790847146645006254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-88650295010853398282007-06-14T23:04:00.000+01:002007-06-14T23:04:00.000+01:00Merryweather, you may as well have done, or dragon...Merryweather, you may as well have done, or dragons, perhaps... it was the 'them' and 'envy and spite' and 'greed and disappointment' that I found most offensive.Mutterings and Meanderingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384198819878227966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-48681227423411820652007-06-14T22:42:00.000+01:002007-06-14T22:42:00.000+01:00I am a Northumbrian living in exile in Lancaster. ...I am a Northumbrian living in exile in Lancaster. I moved from a very rural place, Halton-Lea Gate near Haltwhistle to a small Lancashire city that was at first bewilderingly metropolitan. Your move north is mine in reverse as it were. It took me years to feel "at home" here. Some changes are more subtle than others. For all both places are in England, they are so culturally different.<BR/>You are not alone despite your crie de cour.<BR/>I still hanker after my homeland but I know the reality is I'll probably stay here. <BR/>Even as cyber friends we're with you.The Draughtsmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01393632664229091877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-60714509182753066412007-06-14T22:32:00.000+01:002007-06-14T22:32:00.000+01:00I find it helpful to make some truffles, take them...I find it helpful to make some truffles, take them to the school gate and get people to sample them under the guise of wanting their opinion (which i do really)...i find people warm to me instantly when their mouths are full of gooey, fatty chocolatey stuff that I have provided. Especially when it's alcoholic chocolate. Which Mum doesn't need a quick shot at the school gate? Perhaps you could make some truffles?!<BR/><BR/>Just a thought...hope you are feeling better.Pig in the Kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631525119816074013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-56197581530591839722007-06-14T21:59:00.000+01:002007-06-14T21:59:00.000+01:00... of course not, M & M - I did not suggest No...... of course not, M & M - I did not suggest Northumbrian women were aliens, er, who did mention that? Maybe I missed something?merry weatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15790847146645006254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-22500302998366522302007-06-14T21:27:00.000+01:002007-06-14T21:27:00.000+01:00Perhaps you're trying too hard - we don't all shea...Perhaps you're trying too hard - we don't all shear sheep or milk cows. I'm a farmers daughter and have no desire to do either. Just be yourself and relax. Friendship, like love, finds you when you're least expecting it.@themillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17644636690850127781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-10515696950056112052007-06-14T18:54:00.000+01:002007-06-14T18:54:00.000+01:00Hope you feel better by now wifey.(Que anecdote).....Hope you feel better by now wifey.<BR/><BR/>(Que anecdote).....the people who have turned out to be my friends were never the ones I sought, nor the ones I thought would last.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426075550403567515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-802835553453059962007-06-14T18:02:00.000+01:002007-06-14T18:02:00.000+01:00Merryweather darling, we Northumbrian women are no...Merryweather darling, we Northumbrian women are not aliens you know.Mutterings and Meanderingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384198819878227966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-23410190908350386722007-06-14T17:51:00.000+01:002007-06-14T17:51:00.000+01:00You are obviously finding it easier to be a man th...You are obviously finding it easier to be a man than I am to be a woman WITN! <BR/><BR/>You do take on an awful lot. You could change things. It may not seem like it but you do have many options.<BR/><BR/>Sahd.Stay at home dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07943310521217164291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-56620068873969120042007-06-14T17:09:00.000+01:002007-06-14T17:09:00.000+01:00Now look, you made me cry.I understand entirely wh...Now look, you made me cry.<BR/><BR/>I understand entirely what you mean. For some reason, blokes find it OK to just be themselves, they are what they are. We women, however, need to find a reason to exist - we're thingies wife, somebody's Mum, we're so and so's PA, or that women you see in Waitrose with the weird hair - whatever. Sometimes you get fed up with the categories in which you find yourself and just want a one word description -"friend". I feel lonely even though I'm living in the same place I've always lived, but my friends have moved away, moved on, faded or drifted off and because I was so busy, busy, busy I just let them. <BR/><BR/>I know you're the sort of person who will make new friends in time once they realise you're more than a blog-artist, but you still have some great friends even though they're miles away. After all, it's only geography.<BR/><BR/>Maybe you should look at your own situation in the same way as your son who was excluded from play at school. You may not have a friendship bench but how about starting a reading group instead? With lots of wine of course. <BR/><BR/>Hope you feel happier today, your life sounds much more interesting than mine!<BR/><BR/>:)Swearing Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277450057243928790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-33350157590428862042007-06-14T15:46:00.000+01:002007-06-14T15:46:00.000+01:00Funny, informed, constant, calm (under pressure), ...Funny, informed, constant, calm (under pressure), vulnerable, open....what's not to like about you?<BR/><BR/>Who could need/want friends like them anyway? Envy and spite come out of greed and disappointment I guess. Your book deal comes in the middle not the beginning of your career, I think...<BR/><BR/>Challenge them to a quad bike rally - that would give them a blast and we'll all come to support you. Don't stop!merry weatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15790847146645006254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-47609149218957427662007-06-14T12:12:00.000+01:002007-06-14T12:12:00.000+01:00oh too sad that is, really sad indeed.oh too sad that is, really sad indeed.lady macleodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830048414719866472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-73084197833112519652007-06-14T12:05:00.000+01:002007-06-14T12:05:00.000+01:00I am told that it takes at least three years to se...I am told that it takes at least three years to settle and make friends in a new place.<BR/><BR/>I understand from life in blogland that many of us are trying to settle into new lives. <BR/><BR/>Never believe that you are alone, WITN.<BR/><BR/>Brilliant writing - tomorrow is a naother day and I do hope you will feel less sad.debiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14218049959165514277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-404949278414271422007-06-14T11:53:00.000+01:002007-06-14T11:53:00.000+01:00Hello WITNSo sorry you are feeling low today. I'm...Hello WITN<BR/><BR/>So sorry you are feeling low today. I'm also sorry that my fellow northerners have not done all they could to make you feel welcome. We are a friendly lot honestly, but the remoteness is an obstacle. Not enough Starbucks either. However when my children were young I too felt isolated until I started to volunteer. I don't know how old your children are but I used to help run a beaver group and cub pack. It was great because the kids were entertained at the same time and I still had a challenge and met loads of people. I know that the scout movement are crying out for volunteers. Of course you would have to fit it in around your writing. <BR/><BR/>Congratulations on the book deal. I'm new to blogging and didn't know your story. Love your blog<BR/><BR/>PoetessxxPoetesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345303770870526761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-554417134718595212007-06-14T11:47:00.000+01:002007-06-14T11:47:00.000+01:00Having read the comments after I posted mine, I no...Having read the comments after I posted mine, I now know what it was about. Sorry if my comment looks flippant, that wasn't my intention.I too know how you feel, and i feel for you. When i went part-time to be able to pick up my kids from school, the loneliness was terrible, and that was just a few hours in the afternoon.Sometimes, my darling husband took a half day, to allow me to go off and feel like a real person again. 9 years later, it's ok, and I'm now down to one child in the afternoon, for just one more year. I'm thinking about going back to work full time, but cherishing some of those times me and my 3 kids shared together. <BR/>BTW, this name is my son's, I don't know how to change it, and I'm female! Take a cyberhug from a big fan.FjordLinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324785503053152578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-22181819045396607182007-06-14T11:41:00.000+01:002007-06-14T11:41:00.000+01:00Errrr....Did that bullying session stress you?Errrr....Did that bullying session stress you?Whispering Wallshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03410656699815679312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-57260250238560819802007-06-14T11:39:00.000+01:002007-06-14T11:39:00.000+01:00Been there and done it and now I have a fabulous l...Been there and done it and now I have a fabulous lot of friends, new and old. But it takes time. Not that that's any consolation whatsoever at the moment....Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-80179496859925066482007-06-14T11:37:00.000+01:002007-06-14T11:37:00.000+01:00WITN, have you lost it? Can't figure out this one ...WITN, have you lost it? Can't figure out this one at all.<BR/>For what it's worth,I didn't have time to log onto your blog for a few days,looked forward to logging on this am, knowing there would be a few entries.I love your blog, always so interesting. You have a way with words!FjordLinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324785503053152578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-52632468795722391792007-06-14T10:39:00.000+01:002007-06-14T10:39:00.000+01:00You have laid yourself bare at times in this blog ...You have laid yourself bare at times in this blog and some may not be comfortable with that. But cyberspace can also be a very supportive envirnment and even lead to real-life friendships.<BR/><BR/>I think that whenever we hit adversity or undertake huge life changes it becomes clear who our real friends are. Sometimes it is not who we expect. I'm sure you will find another soul mate in time and I hope it won't take too long.In the meantime, take comfort in your cyber-support.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14103529618681254875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37400848.post-74107392131777927272007-06-14T10:18:00.000+01:002007-06-14T10:18:00.000+01:00Your writing is inspiring. You say what others th...Your writing is inspiring. You say what others think. You write about what others feel. I had very few friends before moving to Northumberland. Now I have learned what true friendship is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com