Comments on Wife in the North: Chaos and wreckage

He has been known to eat herring at his desk.A dea...

2007-09-30T17:48:00.000+01:00

He has been known to eat herring at his desk.

A dead one?

Mega sigh -a soul mate my spouse also a psychologi...

2007-09-30T17:18:00.000+01:00

Mega sigh -a soul mate my spouse also a psychologist has an office so cluttered and full of "stuff" he insists every thing is vital. Even various empty bottles. He keeps telling me that its good to de-clutter in reality cos it de-clutters you mentally
My office is full of a mix of work and family stuff; my cosy sofa, which I so wanted, is taken over by my huge but lovable dog and her toys. Its white and blue. Thank god for removable covers eh.

The house you described visisting was so beautiful...

2007-09-30T10:24:00.000+01:00

The house you described visisting was so beautiful described, it's as if it never existed.

I could imagine being in that box room myself.

If not for the laws of privacy, i would have asked where is the house.

I just moved myself, and I am thinking I have been short-changed by my estate gaent.

She wasn't showing off. She is far too nice to do ...

2007-09-29T20:56:00.000+01:00

She wasn't showing off. She is far too nice to do that as women with a lot of vases often are. (I virtually pleaded to be shown the box room once she mentioned she had one.)

I'm sure your friend is lovely but why exactly did...

2007-09-29T20:39:00.000+01:00

I'm sure your friend is lovely but why exactly did she take you to all these rooms? It does rather sound like showing off... Our study, on the other hand, could not be misconstrued by anyone as an attempt to show-off. It's approx 2m sq and the books liking the shelves are all my husband's, variants of Ludlum / Le Carre /McNab. Which is fine. At least I don't have to look at them piling up on his side of the bed (that's already occupied by work presentations and old copies of the FT).

On second thoughts, oh, for a 13 bedroom mansion to show off to all and sundrty

I have never heard of anyone having a room for the...

2007-09-29T19:17:00.000+01:00

I have never heard of anyone having a room for their boxes, before. I have heard of people having a box for their one and only room, however. No-one said that life was fair, I suppose.

The rest of my family also uses our study as a dumping ground. It is badly cluttered for the third time in as many years. I hope, one day, that I get angry enough to clean the windows. It would be nice to see what lies on the other side again. Every cloud....

Okay -- You all have succeeded in making me feel v...

2007-09-29T17:38:00.000+01:00

Okay -- You all have succeeded in making me feel very guilty. 99% of the mess in our home is mine. My hubby had a first wife who was what I call a "Suzi Housekeeper". He didn't dare set a cup of coffee down -- it would be in the dishwasher in 2 minutes. He couldn't mess the decorative pillows out of their prescribed order. So he happily climbs over rolls and stacks of fabric etc. My guilt may be big enough to move me to clean out the "guestroom" cave which was to be his hideout.

If I want something done, I use a wide black magicmarker sign, taped to the back door by the keyhole. He has to come home, after all. And I also make sure all the materials are purchased -- nails the wrong size can hold up a project till next summer! But he does not disappear to London---

I love the smell of bleach in the same way as I lo...

2007-09-29T16:44:00.000+01:00

I love the smell of bleach in the same way as I love the smell of new paint. It means that someone, at last, is doing something to clean or maintain the house. Even better if that person isn't me.

My husband has managed to fill a huge double garage and his entire study with junk. If asked to get rid of anything he sulks like a little boy asked to tidy out his toy box and send some off to the jumble. I've given up trying to rationalise it all now, and have also given up cleaning his study, so it's a complete and utter tip.

It's almost impossible to find anything, but I'm sure he's in there somewhere ......

All husbands are the same - it's called 'going int...

2007-09-29T15:57:00.000+01:00

All husbands are the same - it's called 'going into their cave' - I know cos I've just read that book which explains it all: "Men are from Mars......"

I have one small PC desk in a small corner of the guest bedroom. My husband has a 6foot oak table for paperwork and a study for hobbies, then he moans that my desk looks overcrowded and untidy!! I warn him that the alternative is His and Her apartments ...

Thanks again for a wonderfully crafted and amusing LOL post. I could almost smell the big house's box room, flower room and I thought I caught a hint of beeswax - I'm trying to ignore the smell of bleach with which I am all too familiar..

I have a tiny office and no-one else can fit into ...

2007-09-29T15:24:00.000+01:00

I have a tiny office and no-one else can fit into it, so the mess is all my own. For years I did all my typing and bookkeeping in the lounge, or should that be living room, I never know. Eventually, we built a utility room on the end of the house, moved the boiler (next to the kitchen) into it, had a new kitchen, moved a wall, (to make the loo next door larger) knocked down a porch, rebuilt it with an additional loo, removed the existing extra loo, and lo and behold - my office. (But it took about three years.)

PS Your husband sounds like mine; he always walks away if I shout.

I do not know why you need a romm for working - JK...

2007-09-29T11:48:00.000+01:00

I do not know why you need a romm for working - JK Rowling used to do it in a cafe - and if it is good enough for her it should be good enough for you!

Have you thought about clearing out the bondage dungeon and using that? You are too old for BDSM anyway...

While my official studio across the town is being ...

2007-09-29T09:03:00.000+01:00

While my official studio across the town is being refurbished I have to work in the kitchen at home. Your imagination can do the rest....
My wife is still speaking to me, but only just.
This month the house will be a Norman-free zone. She gets the kitchen back to use as a kitchen. I will be in Cyprus.

Our study is full of hubby's exercise equipment. ...

2007-09-28T21:56:00.000+01:00

Our study is full of hubby's exercise equipment. I don't go in there. Instead, I work on my laptop from the sofa or the bed or the kitchen table if I'm really ambitious.

On the next window you can try vinegar - my granny...

2007-09-28T21:52:00.000+01:00

On the next window you can try vinegar - my granny's patent method. With newspaper, and never in direct sunlight. There must be several other window-cleaning ideas out there for you to try - I know you find it hard to fill your time.

That was very funny - your husband eats herrings a...

2007-09-28T21:21:00.000+01:00

That was very funny - your husband eats herrings at his desk - your friend's palace smells of money well spent - you are engaging intellectually with cleaning products - I loved every minute of it!!!

WITN, please will you come & clear my study too? I...

2007-09-28T20:38:00.000+01:00

WITN, please will you come & clear my study too? I promise to help, and some time before November.

I love the bleach option. There's something about...

2007-09-28T20:32:00.000+01:00

I love the bleach option. There's something about the smell. Must be my nursing background. I've made a mental note. Should I ever decide to clean my windows I'll try it out.

Loved this entry, made me laugh such a lot. It must be the season for it as I've been purging my study too ;o)

Nice one, wifey. You always manage to make the dai...

2007-09-28T19:40:00.000+01:00

Nice one, wifey. You always manage to make the daily drudge sound so interesting - like it couldn't possibly happen to anyone else in quite the same way.

BTW, have you looked me up, yet?

I am still laughing - and relating...Guess the lau...

2007-09-28T19:01:00.000+01:00

I am still laughing - and relating...

Guess the laughing affected my typing....

Sounds like my husband's office - and he has promi...

2007-09-28T19:00:00.000+01:00

Sounds like my husband's office - and he has promised to clean it this weekend - I wonder if he'll break the vacuum?

Too much Fun!! am still laughing - am relating....